Blogphen

Sorry to be so negative. Just annoyed at the moment.

On the 19th mum and dad are off to an art festival in Whitby. On the 19th I had planned a trip down to Stevenage (down south) for an ntl.talk party. However, as mum was starting to worry about who was going to look after my sister, I offered to cancel my plans and take charge.

Since then, mum has decided that we can’t be trusted alone at home. Apparently I’m going to get an ASBO for playing my music too loud, I’m going to abuse my sister in some form or another and that I’m going to burn the house down. Hence she said today that she’s going to stay at home and look after us unless some “major rules” are put in place. Apparently she’s going to get our godfather to come across every day to see us and make sure we’re not dead or in trouble with the law. What the other ‘rules’ are I’ve yet to find out but I’m sure they’re going to be equally stupid.

To be fair to her, I can see that she’s worried. I can understand that she doesn’t want us to get into trouble or do something drastic to the house so we’ve got nowhere to live. However, what I fail to understand is why she’s being so Draconian. I’m 18 now and I’ve looked after her before without dying or anything. Granted, I’ve not looked after her for as long as a week and a half before but it’s not anything I can’t handle.

As a rule, mum has never trusted us with anything. Every time she goes to an art show (even if it’s only for a few hours and coming back in the evening) she locks us in, takes the key and leaves a list of everything we need to do (including brush teeth for god’s sake…). She doesn’t seem to understand that we’re growing up. I’m 18 and my sister is 14. We’re perfectly capable of looking after ourselves. My ex-girlfriend and plenty of my other friends have been babysitting their little siblings as early as 12.
I’ve not tried discussing this with her yet because I know from past experience that she tends not to listen to reason. She also has a tendency of mollycoddling us, not wanting us to come to any harm. Unfortunately, that tendency seems to cloud her sense of reason.

All I’m asking from her is a bit of trust for once. If she doesn’t feel she can trust us, she needs to let us prove her otherwise. It’s important that she and dad go to this art fair so she can bring in some money which she’s always moaning she doesn’t have. It’s important that she gets out the house and actually enjoys herself (she’s not left the house and had fun for 12 years because there’s nobody to “babysit” my sister and I). It’s important that we’re able to show we’re able to look after ourselves. It’s no wonder my boss keeps saying to people behind my back that I’m a “mummy’s boy” and that “he won’t be able to look after himself at Uni” if mum doesn’t give me a chance to actually learn how to.

I’m sure I’m not asking for much.